Medical Marijuana & Addiction Recovery

One of the downsides of being a clinician is that people will often relate to you as an expert on morality. They will ask, “Is it ok if I…” or “Is it wrong of me to…” I think of Rumi, ““Beyond our ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” […]

Seeking Freedom from Domestic Violence & Addiction

October is national Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I’ve always struggled with using the word “domestic” in describing violence. The word seems to soften a horrible reality. It’s like when we refer to children being “molested” because it seems too harsh to say that a child was “raped.” Elected officials and military personnel take oaths to […]

Coming Back from Relapse

It feels like losing everything, starting over, shame, guilt, humiliation and failure. It’s not. Failure only occurs when we stop getting back up and earnestly trying to get it right. We must keep at the forefront of our thoughts that not everybody gets another chance at recovery. If we remain vertical and breathing then have […]

What Does It Take to Recover?

I most enjoy the company of people who have suffered tremendously. I mean deep in your bones, bring you to your knees, intolerable, loss. We’re folks who embraced the acronym of H.O.P.E (Hold On Pain Ends). Our attitudes are second to none. We’re genuinely happy to be vertical and breathing because what we’ve been through […]

The Most Important Part of Healing

Misfits like me tend to show great empathy to others but lack compassion for ourselves. I’ve learned that you cannot show kindness to the person you ignore, berate, or constantly demand more from. Misfits get stuck between the teachings of our childhoods and recognition that the people who taught us those things were sick and […]