Escaping the ugliness


There’s a precarious balance between wanting to know what’s going on in the world and becoming overwhelmed and disgusted with what’s in the news cycle. Henry Miller said, “The aim of life is to live and to live means to be aware. Joyously, drunkenly, divinely aware.” That’s my goal (I don’t think Henry meant “drunkenly” […]

All things are boring in moderation


Some folks can have a glass of wine or a couple of beers now and again without ever developing a problem. They can get a little high from marijuana and go on with their day without becoming stoned and unproductive. These are very strange people from the perspective of folks like myself. They’re “normal people” […]

Perpetuating Stigma Through Unwitting Racism


In his blog today, B.M. Simpson offers his view that the Black Lives Matter is a “distraction by design.” His outrage starts with Colin Kaepernick for screwing up his weekly respite from the world (televised football). Mr. Simpson seems quite angered that folks he looks to for entertainment would ever take a political stance. The […]

I can’t do normal anymore


I can’t fake it anymore. I used to be really good at pretending. I could look like I understood when guys talked about what they just picked up at the Home Depot.(The only thing I can do with tools is hurt myself). I would nod appropriately and look impressed when people told me about their […]

Whose rules do you love and live by?

“Listen to Mustn’ts, child, listen to the Don’ts. Listen to the Shouldn’ts, the Impossibles, the Won’ts. Listen to the Never Haves, then listen close to me. Anything can happen, child, Anything can be.  -Shel Silverstein I’ve shared this poem several times recently. Resolving inner conflicts like the one Shel describes is key to attaining the […]