Old School Recovery

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Talk with “old timers” in programs like AA and a lot of those amazing folks will tell you that our approach to recovery has softened over the years. It’s true – and like everything else, there are pros and cons to how things have changed. I’m always looking at the bottom line – what works/what […]

The Best People in the World

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My heart is full to bursting. I got to spend this afternoon surrounded by people I never intended to know, doing something I never imagined I’d do. It’s no surprise to me. It’s part of my recovery. I get to discover, develop, and become increasingly better versions of myself as I go. Today I married […]

Detaching with Love

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“If you wanna be free, be free…” I have a Sunday morning ritual of reading Postsecret.com. I think of it as how I’d like church to be (disorganized religion) – a community of people sharing their experience, strength, and hope. It’s an anonymous fellowship of people all around the world. Some of us whispering and […]

One Life, Many Pathways Out of Addiction

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The BDN is sponsoring the One Life Event today (5/4/16) at the Cross Center. Political and community leaders alike will solicit not only public input but also grass roots action as we seek to reduce stigma and increase access to education, prevention, and treatment in combating addiction in our communities. It is therefore all the […]

When You Love with a Broken Heart

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There are only two types of people in the world: Us and Them. For those of us who never got to be carefree and innocent, the guiding principle of our lives became: Don’t be like them. I have a huge place in my heart for ill prepared young people who are desperately trying to do […]

I Didn’t Want to Bother You

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Facing fear alone is the worst possible approach.  We wouldn’t wish it on anyone we care about but we often choose it for ourselves. It’s self limiting and it leaves us with an intensely empty feeling of loneliness and disconnection. When a person in recovery (addiction and/or trauma) is afraid to do something, our minds […]

Weight Loss, Losing Battles (and how to win them)

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I’ve joked for years now that I could give a lot of people I know a great day just by setting their bathroom scales back a couple pounds. The significance we place upon numbers (weight, dress/pant size, chronological age, amount of wages/savings/investments) reflects our tendency to judge ourselves in ways that are very different than […]