Whose rules do you love and live by?

“Listen to Mustn’ts, child, listen to the Don’ts. Listen to the Shouldn’ts, the Impossibles, the Won’ts. Listen to the Never Haves, then listen close to me. Anything can happen, child, Anything can be.  -Shel Silverstein I’ve shared this poem several times recently. Resolving inner conflicts like the one Shel describes is key to attaining the […]

I thought I was the only one?

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There’s a song by Dar Williams, “What Do You Hear In These Sounds” that I recommend. It’s about what it’s like to be in therapy. It’s cute and it’s light and it’s a whole lot of truth wrapped up in metaphors and analogies because: It’s scary to come right out and say things. Williams breaks […]

Everything was beautiful and nothing hurt.

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If ever you feel like putting your brain in a blender, read Kurt Vonnegut’s Slaughterhouse Five. If you’re not familiar with his work…the most important thing to know is that Vonnegut’s brilliance was matched only by the levels of his depression. Like many authors and performers, Vonnegut lived with Bi-Polar disorder. Unlike most creative geniuses […]

How do I move forward?

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There are forms of pain that run so deep you feel it in your bones. Soul crushing,Story continues below advertisement. mind numbing, heart stopping, pain.   Initially, it’s so profound that you don’t feel it at all And then, it’s like a wave crashing down   Except… it’s a tidal wave and you can’t find […]

Diagnosing our Governor

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This weekend’s Portland Press Herald featured an opinion piece that has since been pulled from their online edition. The link to that article now connects to an apology from the editor that notes, “The article never should have been published.” The piece was copied and pasted by a friend and sent to me. I find […]

What does it takes to recover?

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I favor using  the term “recovery” broadly to include any person who seeks to completely change their lives. Whether we are recovering from mental illness, self harm, an abusive childhood, or an eating disorder – it’s seriously the most bad ass thing a person can do. I find myself (once again) a solid two steps […]

Will I ever get it?

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When the addict or alcoholic asks, “Will I ever get it?” We are referencing sobriety and the promises it holds. We are also describing the numerous and seemingly bottomless pitfalls of fear and shame that exist along the path to recovery and self acceptance. If you’ve never experienced addiction or watched it up close and […]

Governor LePage you’re undeniably a homophobe

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I have about as much interest in discussing Governor LePage as an ongoing embarrassment to Maine as I have in knocking down a brick wall with my forehead. I do feel compelled however to point out the obvious that many may overlook: By calling Representative Drew Gattine a “cocksucker”, you have undeniably exposed yourself as […]

Insecure men and the fear of powerful women

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Roxanne Jones writes an excellent blog, Boomer Haiku. In her most recent post, she discusses some research that conflicts in particularly unfortunate ways. She shares the claims of Lawrence Whalley an expert on mental health who claims, “marrying an intelligent woman helps protect a man from dementia.” That seems like common sense to me. A […]