Category Archives: Addiction

Listening to the Disease of Addiction

Folks in recovery from addiction sometimes personify their disease. We make reference to what it tells us and describe how it wants us to see things or act upon them. It’s useful to conceptualize addiction this way because while the disease remains within us, it is not a part of the person we are becoming. […]

Alcoholism & Diabetes

The prevalence of diabetes amongst recovering alcoholics is remarkably high. It’s humbling to realize how much damage we didn’t even realize we were doing. For most of us, the amount of sugar in the alcohol we were ingesting was the furthest thing from our thoughts. In the throes of early recovery, we don’t overly discourage […]

Recovery: Surrender to Win

I talk with folks all the time who conceptualize recovery as an ongoing battle. Depending on your perspective it may sound sexy to be in a fight for your life every day. To me it just sounds exhausting. Those I’ve known with the most success say, “Surrender to win.” Recovery is a progression of letting […]

Just For Today I Don’t Have to Drink

A dear friend of mine has been an addictions counselor for decades. She shared a story with me about a particularly difficult case involving a man who was quickly approaching late stage alcoholism. Nothing seemed to work for him. Detoxes, rehabs, IOPs and every established intervention professionals used had been of little value. He came […]

I’m not on Your Level

I hate it when people hold me at arm’s length. I get it, I just hate it. If I’m trying to get close to you, it’s because I see you as someone I admire, respect, and want to know better. If you don’t like me, that’s ok. What drives me nuts is when you tell […]

Understanding Sex & Love Addiction

It’s hard for most folks to conceive of sex addiction as being different from promiscuity or to distinguish love addiction from codependency. This is all the more understandable given that researchers have yet to definitively draw any lines between healthy fulfillment and pathological behavior. Addiction becomes evident when patterns are perpetuated despite unwanted and painful […]

How to Fix Your Relationship

Timing is everything. We need to get super honest here because far too often, it’s way too late. I’ve joked for years that folks seem to flip a coin; heads we call a couples counselor and tails we call either a moving company or a lawyer. My first and best advice – don’t wait to […]