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Mother’s Little Helper

Mother’s Little Helper I can spot a fake smile at a hundred yards. The eyes are what give it away. He’s a great kid – got himself into some routine teenage trouble and got caught. He’s been seeing me for a few months now. We started off slow, got to the heart of the matter […]

Channels of Expression

It works like this: Press  Repress  Express We knew pain and pressure throughout our childhoods and beyond. We were not innocent. We were never naive. We understood things that burdened us. We did not learn safety. We were never secure. We were children who held secrets and we were not allowed to feel […]

Affected Others

Affected Others “There’s a light at the end of this tunnel you shout cuz you’re just as far in as you’ll ever be out.” – Anna Nalick “Breath” She’s afraid of how well this is going. The woman is a codependent saint. Every time I’m sure she’s going to leave…she doesn’t. She’s stuck halfway between […]

Building Faith

“Religion is for those who are afraid to go to hell and spirituality is for those of us who have already been there.” – Heard in the halls of AA “I’d rather laugh with the sinners than cry with the saints. The sinners are much more fun” – Bill Joel “Only the Good Die Young” […]

Growing Up Step One

Step One in Growing UpIf you hear something your whole life…you will believe it…whether it is true or not. We are products of our environments and our identity was formed initially within a system. For most of us that system was a family of origin. Our identity is the sum total of our experiences. Childhood […]

Ill at Ease with the Disease

She asks an innocent question, “Is addiction a disease or is it more of a choice?” She watched her husband suffer the throes of addiction for years and ultimately it took his life. I tell her it’s both. Her husband lived with a disease and he had a choice every day of his life as […]

Anxiety Sucks

Anxiety and depression are commonplace in our society. There’s at least 100 reasons for that. Those of us in recovery are seeking ways to cope without drugs and alcohol. Our fears run deeper than most and our willingness to struggle and suffer remain high. We have found that having a high tolerance for pain does […]

Cure for Loneliness

Cure for Loneliness He’s come to the disturbing realization that he’s unhappy with his life and has been for a long time. Day by day it didn’t seem bad; he just did what needed to be done and there was always lots to do. He’s a very good man and he’s every bit as hard […]


You’re groundedI’ve heard many variations of the adage that behind every successful man there is a woman. She is likely to be strong, wise, loving, and exhausted. Of all the ways in which I am blessed; I am so fortunate as to have been in love with such a woman for over twenty five years […]

Genuine Misfits

Genuine Misfitsby Jim LaPierre on Tuesday, December 27, 2011 at 8:55pm We made it through another Christmas – or at least that’s what folks are telling me today. They seem relieved and pleased. Apparently the outcome was in doubt and I didn’t realize it. I forget to worry sometimes, fortunately there are always people who […]