Middle Aged, Single & The Fear of Ending Up Alone

I remain a huge fan of Karen Foley’s writing. In her latest piece she urges middle aged women to transcend the societal norm of feeling/believing that they are invisible to men. Karen makes a compelling case that continued growth is paramount to overcoming fears and insecurities. Part of that growth is embracing what good men […]

5 Simple Strategies for Overcoming Panic Attacks

People often confuse heightened moments of anxiety with panic attacks. A panic attack lasts between 5-15 minutes and it includes physical symptoms that strongly resemble a heart attack. We typically see numbness in the arms, a feeling of having a heavy weight on ones chest, difficulty breathing, and pronounced body pain. 1. The most important […]

Learning to Walk Again

“(I’m) getting good at starting over” – Foo Fighters “Walk” I’m coming up on one year since I was hospitalized and unless it’s for somebody else’s benefit, I don’t care to talk about it much. I know better than that. Experience has taught me that not wanting to is a sure sign of needing to. […]

Two Steps to Overcoming Anxiety

I’ve been reading a lot of personal stories lately about what it’s like to live with anxiety. What’s striking to me is that we refer to it generically, when in fact, there are many different manifestations of anxiety. Categorically, the most common include Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Panic Disorder (PD) (with […]

Alcohol Awareness in a Sound Byte Culture

Every April since 1987, the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence promotes awareness of alcohol abuse and addiction by organizing local and national events for “National Alcohol Awareness Month.” I’m a bit embarrassed to have just learned of this (I’ve been an addictions counselor for many years). It seems a likely indicator of their […]

Governor LePage is Weak On Drug Policies

Last week Governor LePage told reporters that the current legislature is “weak on drugs.” His plans to increase spending on law enforcement is designed to reduce the availability of illegal drugs in Maine. That not every citizen of Maine is outraged by his proposal is a testament to our collective apathy. Regardless of your position […]

Best Ways to Overcome Depression

I am grateful to my mother for teaching me a very simple lesson, “People need something to do.” She explained this to me as a child. I was observing folks who had just come from a spiritual retreat. They were filled with energy and optimism but seemed not to know what to do with themselves. […]

What People Like You & I Need

Today’s BDN featured a piece by Kathleen Pierce about a woman who gets it. Lea Moon, owner of Snuggle You Up understands that people need to be hugged, held, and nurtured. It immediately made me think of the Free Hugs Campaign in which a gentle man known as “Juan Mann” (pseudonym) gave hugs to strangers […]

Dealing with My “Drinking Problem”

I try my best never to tell someone that they’re an alcoholic. My belief is that only the individual has the right to apply that label to themselves. I have treated people who have “alcohol issues”, folks who have a “slight problem with alcohol” and many who “might kinda be a little bit concerned about […]