Why I Hate it when You Drink

She’s a great friend. She’s one of the smartest, most talented, and loving people I know… …and I don’t ever want to be around her again when she drinks. Lots of folks struggle to address this issue with friends and family. So what follows is what I shared with her: With your permission, I am […]

Binging, Purging & Untold Stories

Surviving traumatic events is common amongst folks who live with eating disorders. Whether a person who lives with anorexia or bulimia meets criteria for PTSD or not, there’s an excellent chance they have gone through overwhelmingly painful and terrifying experiences that in a very real sense are never truly over. The National Eating Disorders Association […]

Recovering For Our Kids Sake

Parenting is the most difficult, important, and honorable job a person can take on. With great intentions, we screw up even on our best days. Living with addiction, depression, anxiety or other illnesses can make an already hard job unmanageable. We know the adage that ultimately, recovery is something we must do for ourselves. I […]

Writing all the Wrongs Sets Us Free

Nearly all of the best people I know are in recovery from something – trauma, addiction, mental illness, and/or a million forms of self destruction. Without exception, I find within each of us an incredible capacity for empathy and a talent we hide from the world. I urge folks to write, draw, paint, sing, and […]

How To Change Your Life

Write down every idea you have about where you’re supposed to be in your life. Do this exhaustively. Are you supposed to be thinner? More loved? More productive? More educated? Describe everything that you feel you should be in great detail. Now, take your writing to a nice quiet place outdoors and set fire to […]

Middle Aged, Single & The Fear of Ending Up Alone

I remain a huge fan of Karen Foley’s writing. In her latest piece she urges middle aged women to transcend the societal norm of feeling/believing that they are invisible to men. Karen makes a compelling case that continued growth is paramount to overcoming fears and insecurities. Part of that growth is embracing what good men […]

5 Simple Strategies for Overcoming Panic Attacks

People often confuse heightened moments of anxiety with panic attacks. A panic attack lasts between 5-15 minutes and it includes physical symptoms that strongly resemble a heart attack. We typically see numbness in the arms, a feeling of having a heavy weight on ones chest, difficulty breathing, and pronounced body pain. 1. The most important […]

Learning to Walk Again

“(I’m) getting good at starting over” – Foo Fighters “Walk” I’m coming up on one year since I was hospitalized and unless it’s for somebody else’s benefit, I don’t care to talk about it much. I know better than that. Experience has taught me that not wanting to is a sure sign of needing to. […]

Two Steps to Overcoming Anxiety

I’ve been reading a lot of personal stories lately about what it’s like to live with anxiety. What’s striking to me is that we refer to it generically, when in fact, there are many different manifestations of anxiety. Categorically, the most common include Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Panic Disorder (PD) (with […]