Learning How to Let Go

I’ve learned that I can’t “get over” anything. If I want to get continue getting better, I have to go through it. We want to let go of memories that contain past pain and anger…but for most of us that just means we stop thinking about it. It’s childish, but we actually hear ourselves say, […]

Loud Music Improves Mental Health

One of the quirkier things I do in therapy sessions: I quote song lyrics to my clients. It happens at least a couple times a day. People tell me their stories and I hear a soundtrack in my head that matches what they’re going through. Whenever I’m asked how I’m able to do that so […]

Why Do People Have Eating Disorders?

February 23rd – March 1st is National Eating Disorder Awareness Week. The most common eating disorders are Bulimia, Anorexia Nervosa and Binge Eating Disorder. We have a strong social awareness that these conditions are prevalent and very little understanding as to why. We seem to view eating disorders as simply misguided pursuits of our cultural […]

Dealing with PTSD, Anxiety, and Addiction

Hypervigilance is a heightened state of awareness in which a person is often flooded by sensory input. It’s a survival skill learned in war zones and abusive families. Excessively monitoring the physical environment and the people in it is subconsciously driven. Its meant to detect any threat to self at the earliest possible juncture. The […]

The Addiction to Happily Ever After

The layperson’s definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result each time. Those of us who refuse to accept the simple (though sometimes horrible) truth, refuse to accept powerlessness, and refuse to accept life on life’s terms remain locked in patterns of self destruction. We don’t simply […]

How to Change What You Believe

“If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission.” – Eddie Colla On my office wall hangs a sign that says, “You’re awesome. If someone doesn’t see that, f@ck ‘em. It’s true of everyone who visits me because if it’s not I send them away. I don’t know how to help people I don’t […]