Tag Archives: depression

How to not care what people think         

Recovery Rocks

As a therapist, I often hear variations of, “I just want to get to a place where I don’t care what people think of me.” My response is typically, “It’s not about what they think. It’s about what you know.” We’re insecure, so we cover up. We hide our faults and fears and feelings because […]

10 Tips for getting out of you own way in recovery

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Practice “mindfulness.” It’s really just a nice word for, “F’ing pay attention to yourself.” It’s a lot easier to deal with wants, needs, and feelings when you know what they actually are. Stop being “terminally unique.” Everyone has a right to their opinion. Projecting your view of self and deciding the rest of us feel […]

A letter from your Higher Power

Recovery Rocks

Spiritual growth is the key to overcoming terrible things. It’s daunting and it’s messy. Unlike established religions or philosophies, spirituality has no rules or imposed structure. It gives one the opportunity to practice eclecticism: gather things that work for you, and develop your own beliefs, rituals, and practices. It’s the ultimate example of, “Take what […]

Putting the puzzle pieces of myself together

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Ever play the word association game? I say a word, you respond with the first word that comes to mind? It’s a pop psychology experiment born from the days of analysts who examined the ways in which people think and dream, seeking patterns and underlying motives. An analyst attempting to follow my thought processes would […]

Agony is optional: how to stop resisting change

Recovery Rocks

I spend a lot of time with folks who see their lives as endlessly confusing and overwhelming. I offer them the Keep It Simple System (K.I.S.S.). It’s long been the most sensible approach I’ve found to living and it has infinite applications. My favorite K.I.S.S. strategy is to take whatever I’m unhappy/distressed/F’ed up about and […]

Asking God for signs and other dubious undertakings

I love talking about spirituality and the things that bring meaning, passion, and purpose to people’s lives. Doing this as a clinician invites a lot of questions about God, the Universe, and Everything. I’m no expert on faith – I’m pretty sure that’s an oxymoron. I do enjoy people like Anne Lamott and Richard Rohr […]